THE SECOND FIRE
A 6 MONTH GROUP PASSAGE
FOR MEN AT THE MIDLIFE THRESHOLD
This invitation is for men in the Middle Passage...
For some, this looks like the pulse of your life has gone quiet. A career that fits on paper but not in the body. A marriage that functions but no longer nourishes. A success that no longer tastes like anything. You are performing a role that no longer fits.
For others, the pulse is loud but the direction is missing. You feel full of drive but cannot find where to point it. You are at a threshold - a child on the way, a business taking shape, an identity falling away - and the waters are getting deep.
For others still, you are actively letting an old self die. The good boy. The provider. The performer. What comes next is not yet clear.
What unites these territories is the same question James Hollis names: the collapse of the provisional self, and the encounter with what is real beneath it.
You don't need more information. You need men beside you.
I am inviting eight men into a six-month circle (Nov 2026-May 2027)
This is for the man who:
- Is in the age range of 35-60
- Knows he cannot cross this terrain alone
- Is a successful leader in business, social impact, or entrepreneurship, or community work
- Is grateful for his material success but realizes it is no longer enough to sustain his soul
- Feels the boiling point of his current role and knows he cannot keep the persona on for another decade
- Is willing to treat this passage as the dedicated work it is - financially, emotionally, and mythically
- Is willing to show up for himself and for the other men in the circle
THE CONTAINER
- Two 90-minute group sessions with me per month, emergent and unscripted
- A private WhatsApp thread for the brotherhood between calls
- One dispatch per month from me on the seasonal theme we are in
- A private archive for call recordings
- Optional 'Walk the Land' sessions at discounted rate of $125 when you need a solo supportÂ
PRAISE FOR WORKING WITH ME:
"My experiences with Ian have shaped what I look for in a therapist—someone who holds space with deep care and offers creative viewpoints I hadn't yet imagined. Every session has been profound, resulting in an invaluable shift in my perspective and the drive to keep diving deeper."
- PAUL, THERAPIST
"Working with Ian has been transformative. Through our sessions, I’ve gained clarity on my values, learned to set healthy boundaries, and untangled myself from old patterns. His insights on transparency and integrity have been a key factor in my journey toward building healthier, more authentic relationships."
- MIKE, ENTREPRENEUR
"Ian made me feel seen in the muck of wanting to reclaim my own creativity. His perspective and the lived experiences he shared so honestly supported my unique pursuit of the relationships I want to create in my life."
- BRIAN, men's coach
"I’ve been most struck by the organic quality of Ian's approach. This comes from his depth of attunement and his willingness to follow his intuition. In the dance of a session with Ian, the smallest gesture can bloom into something profound."
- TYLER, COUNSELLOR
